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  • Writer's pictureMeg Howald


"He felt now that he was not simply close to her, but that he did not know where he ended and she began." -Leo Tolstoy's Anna Karenina

In Bed, The Kiss, 1892, Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec.

Every intimate moment has been painted or poeticized, lyricized, and immortalized. Writing intimate moments into your fiction depends upon many things, but here are some: the level of intimacy between your characters, your comfort level, what you promised your readers, and how well you know your characters.

From The Joy of Writing Sex: A Guide for Fiction Writers(©1996 Story Press), Elizabeth Benedict says:

  • A good sex scene is not always about good sex, but it is always an example of good writing.

  • The needs, impulses and histories of your characters should drive a sex scene.

  • The relationship your characters have to one another…should exert more influence on how you write their sexual encounter than should any anatomical details.

I don't write romance novels, but for me it's so important in my psychological thrillers that love is a strong element that drives the story as much as the murder mystery does. What's the point in spending so much time completing a book without a love theme?

Here's a site, rich in moments of literary intimacy:

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